Serenity (Acceptance)
Acknowledging that we cannot control other people, the past, or external circumstances. In recovery, this often means accepting the reality of the addiction itself.
The Serenity Prayer (AA)
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God, grant us
the serenity to accept the things we cannot change,
courage to change the things we can,
and wisdom to know the difference.
The Full Text and Extended Serenity Prayer
(Attributed to Reinhold Niebuhr)
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God, grant us
the serenity to accept the things we cannot change,
courage to change the things we can,
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
As it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make things right
If I surrender to His Will;
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life
And supremely happy with Him
Forever and ever in the next.
Amen.
The History of the Serenity Prayer
Who Wrote the Serenity Prayer?
The Serenity Prayer is most commonly attributed to Reinhold Niebuhr, an American theologian who lived from 1892 to 1971. His daughter, Elisabeth Sifton, defended that attribution in her book The Serenity Prayer: Faith and Politics in Times of Peace and War, placing the prayer in the context of the Great Depression, the rise of fascism, and the moral uncertainty of the years before World War II. Niebuhr is widely credited with shaping the prayer in the form that became famous, though the exact history of the wording has been debated by scholars.
Why the Authorship Is Debated
Fred R. Shapiro, editor of The New Yale Book of Quotations, conducted some of the most detailed research on the prayer’s origins. His work, reported in The New York Times in 2008, found that early printed versions raised questions about a simple, single-author story. Shapiro also highlighted Winnifred Wygal, a YWCA official and associate of Niebuhr, as the earliest known person to use a recognizable form of the prayer in print. Yale News summarizes his view this way: Niebuhr is the traditional attribution, but the earliest traceable use dates to Wygal in the 1930s, and the wording likely developed through both of their influence.
How the Serenity Prayer Became Part of AA
The prayer entered Alcoholics Anonymous in the early 1940s. According to AA’s own historical account, an early member named Jack C. brought in a newspaper clipping from the New York Herald Tribune. The prayer resonated immediately with the people in AA’s New York office. Bill Wilson, AA’s co-founder, later wrote that "never had we seen so much A.A. in so few words." AA began printing the prayer on small wallet-sized cards to include in outgoing mail. During World War II, the USO distributed it to American soldiers and the National Council of Churches helped reprint it — carrying the prayer far beyond church and recovery settings.
Why There Are Short and Long Versions
Most people in recovery know the short version: brief, memorable, and easy to say in a meeting. Longer versions include additional lines about living one day at a time, accepting hardship as the pathway to peace, and trusting that surrender leads to lasting happiness. The short version became standard in AA because it was simple, portable, and powerful enough to be printed on a card and recalled in difficult moments. The long version gives the prayer a fuller spiritual setting.
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About this prayer
A Guide to the Serenity Prayer for Recovery
Whether you are newly sober, navigating a difficult moment, or a long-time member of a 12-step fellowship, having the Serenity Prayer full text on hand provides a powerful tool for grounding and peace.
Written in the 1930s by theologian Reinhold Niebuhr, the prayer wasn’t originally created for addiction treatment. However, its core message aligned perfectly with the journey of getting sober. It breaks down the complexities of life into three manageable pillars:
Courage (Action)
Recognizing what is within our control—our reactions, our daily habits, our willingness to ask for help, and our commitment to working a program.
Wisdom (Discernment)
The clarity that comes from a sober mind, allowing us to pause before reacting and recognize the boundary between what is ours to fix and what is ours to release.
For decades, the Serenity Prayer for recovery has served as a daily anchor, helping millions of people navigate anxiety, cravings, and life’s inevitable challenges without picking up a drink or a drug.
What Happens in the Brain
A published fMRI study of AA members in active recovery found that reciting the Serenity Prayer is associated with measurable changes in brain activity. Prayer activates regions linked to executive control, sustained attention, and emotional regulation — while simultaneously quieting the default mode network, the circuit connected to self-referential thinking, anxiety, and craving loops. In short, reciting the prayer doesn’t just feel grounding; it redirects cognitive resources away from obsessive thought and toward present-moment awareness.
How the Prayer is Used in 12-Step Meetings
If you attend an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA), or Al-Anon meeting, you are almost guaranteed to hear the Serenity Prayer. It serves several vital functions in the fellowship:
Opening and Closing
Meetings traditionally open with a moment of silence followed by the Serenity Prayer to unify the group and focus the room. Many meetings also circle up and hold hands to close with it.
In Moments of Crisis
Sponsors often advise sponsees to recite the prayer when they are facing a trigger, feeling overwhelmed, or experiencing a craving. It acts as a mental "reset" button.
Group Support
When a member shares a particularly difficult struggle during a meeting, the group will sometimes recite the prayer together in unison to show solidarity and support.
Frequently Asked Questions
- Did Reinhold Niebuhr really write the Serenity Prayer?
- He is the traditional author, and his daughter defended the attribution in a book on the prayer’s Depression-era origins. Quotation researcher Fred R. Shapiro, though, traced the earliest recognizable use in print to Winnifred Wygal, a YWCA colleague of Niebuhr’s — so the famous wording most likely took shape through both of them in the 1930s.
- How old is the Serenity Prayer, and how did AA get it?
- The earliest traceable uses date to the 1930s. It reached Alcoholics Anonymous in the early 1940s through a newspaper clipping brought into AA’s New York office; the fellowship began printing it on wallet-sized cards, and the USO distributed it to American soldiers during World War II.
- When is the Serenity Prayer said in meetings?
- Most meetings open with it after a moment of silence, and many circle up to close with it as well. Outside the rooms, sponsors suggest it as a reset during cravings or overwhelming moments, and a group will sometimes recite it in unison to support a member after a painful share.
- What is the difference between the short and extended versions?
- The short version ends at “the wisdom to know the difference” and became AA’s standard because it fits on a card and comes back to you in a hard moment. The extended version continues with lines about living one day at a time and accepting hardship as the pathway to peace — both full texts are on this page.
- Does reciting the Serenity Prayer actually do anything?
- There is early scientific evidence that it does. In a published fMRI study of AA members, reciting the prayer engaged brain regions tied to attention and emotional regulation while quieting the default mode network — the circuit associated with rumination and craving loops.